So much of what helps me with our sons case is not just our lawyer, but all of this research the internet has allowed me to do. Three years ago, my husband had a pretty bad drinking problem and started going to a Substance Abuse program along with at least one AA meeting every day. There was one man in particular that helped him out a lot, and who has recently popped into our heads as being the exact person we need to help us with our case in court. He has a lot of experience in this category but also has degrees to back up that experience (along with past experience) and we were thinking he would make the perfect "expert witness" for our case (since there are no real federal guidelines to who is and who is not an expert witness). So I look back at old information to find the number to the my husbands old substance abuse center, called and asked for the counselor, no idea who I was talking about. DAMN! 2.5 years later and this man wasn't working there and they didn't know who I was talking about. Of course now I'm thinking we are screwed and are going to have to pay out the butt for an expert witness (they can be anywhere from 100-2000 an hour), but again reverted back to the internet to see if I can track this guy down. LOW AND BEHOLD! I found him, working the next city over, called the number and left a message. Hopefully, he remembers my husband and I and calls me back! Keep your fingers crossed for me!
As for the rest of the case, now we are planning on subpoenaing (sp?) the "mother's" PCP's medical records for her because it looks like (according to federal regulations) that he is prescribing her an illegal amount of these medications but also changing his story about what these medications are being used for. (Not looking to get anyone fired, but we are looking to get to the bottom of this and finally get what is in Gino's best interests) The court appointed GAL seems to now be on our side (finally) and seems to be seeing the real woman behind the sober facade she has become so good at putting on for everyone but us. The PCP has stopped returning phone calls and sent a "letter" changing why she was prescribed these meds form what he had originally told the GAL, shady right? Ordered on the 22nd was a hair follicle to be done by today, her lawyer said she took one on the 19th-it was only a 5 panel, not the 12 panel we need to see her prescriptions. However, that was not what was ordered, she was ordered to take it between the 22nd and now. If she doesn't do that by the end of today, that is an automatic fail in the courts eyes, if she does, we are still taking her in because most likely she will not take the 12 panel we need. Not to mention we will need to suspend the visits because of all of this new information we are finding out about her prescriptions, but we still will need some hard evidence to get all of these shenanigans to stop (terminating her rights). The case is exasperating to say the least, and I think that some serious upgrades to Probate and Family laws needs to be made, and once this court case is finished I am seriously looking into fighting to "make those upgrades", which is going to take a lot of time and effort, but these laws need to be adjusted. People with continuous substance abuse issues, years of relapse, assault records, Class A Possesion issues, Abuse issues, etc. should NOT be allowed years upon years to slowly destroy a child's life mentally and possibly physically! This is 5 years that Gino has been put through this bull, 5 years being yanked in and out of this nonsense, 5 years of hating visits and seeing this woman, 5 years of her choosing drugs over her child (I understand the idea of substance abuse being a disease, I understand the arguments, but personally I have strong views on the matter, especially when involving a child)...After 1 or 2 years of continuous abuse and relapses, the childs best interests should be seriously thought about, and that parent who cannot get their act straight should have their rights terminated, this frivolous dance back and fourth is not only completely unnecessary but also can be extremely damaging to the child. So HEY MASSACHUSETTS can we do something about the way we handle the Probate and Family cases?! Also, something that should be a no brainer for courts is that yes, maybe an addict is prescribed certain medications, but those people may also very well be abusing those prescriptions, so any test that they are ordered to take should specifically be Quantitative and the ng/mL levels that would be considered abuse of the medications should be well known to both parties! I am still trying to figure out what (depending on dosages) are considered high levels and abusive of xanax and methadone when a person is prescribed these medications and ordered to submit to drug tests! Any one who knows anything, let me know, you could help save a kid here, lord knows it is next to impossible to find this information. Ex: say she takes 10 mg's 2-3 times a day (30 mg's max a day) when she takes a urine her ng/mL level should not be MORE than 350 ng/mL's (this is an example of what I NEED to find out, with documentation of it).
Short post yes, but this is all over my brain, honestly stopping me from being very productive in other areas of life!
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Thursday, December 22, 2011
"Broad assumptions are made about young parents: they must be single parents, they have short term or sporadic relationships, they probably have had many sexual partners, they will make inadequate parents and they are uneducated and irresponsible." ~Planned Parenhood "Young Parent's Report"
I am far from the youngest mother out there, I am 23 1/2 with two kids who are 5 and almost 2. My husband was 18 when our first son Gino was born (my "step" son) and so was I, although I did not know him at that age, I could have very easily been in the same boat as my husband was at 18. I in fact (don't really care what your opinions are on the matter) had an abortion when I was 18, and to this day have never regretted the decision. For me, at that time I was not ready to have a baby especially not with the "man" I was seeing at that time. He had another son who he never took care of, pretended he cared about him, was 25 and couldn't hold a job or pay child support without me telling him he should be doing so, amongst other things. His sons mother and I became very close (and I still consider her an amazing friend), she was one of the few who was totally honest with me about him, she was right about him every step of the way, and to this day I am so grateful to her for her being so straight forward and honest with me from the beginning (even when I was being manipulated by a hobbit).
I was anything but careless, actually I had been taking birth control since I was young (not to over share or anything) and had consistently taken my pills to ensure I would not have a baby until I was ready. Unfortunately, when you are young and your doctor does not inform you that taking anti-biotic's while on birth control can stop the birth control from being effective, pregnancy is often what follows. It was a hard decision for me because I love kids and my mother and my father had different views on the matter. In the end, I decided to have an abortion (which prior to the situation I was in, I never agreed with people having them) and my best friend Katie was there for me every step of the way. And Like I said, to this day, I have never regretted my decision.
Only two years later, I met my husband and his absolutely adorable 2 year old son. Honestly when I met my husband, I thought he was much older (I never dated men my age, because generally they were too immature) and wanted nothing to do with him for a good 6 months, not because he wasn't attractive or hilarious (he was and still is, even more so now than then) but because I just got out of a serious relationship and definitely was not wanting to be involved with another man who had a kid. I suppose persistence pays off though, because I am now in fact married to him. So in a way, I have been a mother since I was 20, because I have been a mother to Gino since then. I was almost 22 when Deezy was born, so I guess you could say I am a young mother, however I had always wanted my kids in my early 20's because I didn't want to be an older mother (not that anything is wrong with that, I just wanted to have mine young). I'm hoping to have another soon!! So far, my husband and I are thinking 6 kids, but that all depends on the gender of the next 2 (2 more boys in a row might make me stop at 4, our boys come out insanely active).
The point of that mini rant about being a young mother does have a point, my point is how awkward and annoying it is being looked at like "the young mom" when I take Gino to school. Even more so nowadays when a lot of women aren't having there kids until their 40's!! Just because I am young with two boys, does NOT make me promiscuous, does NOT make me a single mother, does NOT make me a bad mother, does NOT make me irresponsible OR uneducated! In fact, I was raised by some pretty smart parents, a father who is a Doctor of Anthropology and a mother who was an English teacher, they also both happen to have been in the Peace Corps (Kano, Nigeria). So don't be fooled by my young appearance, I was raised very well (although at times I may have butted heads with my parents) and am myself, an educated woman. I hold a minor in Psychology and am working on finishing up my degree in Music Education. I also want to pursue many other roads in education, like family law paralegal, a Major in Psychology and go on to get a Doctorate in Music. So, please, no quick judgements, I am not what you are thinking. I am also a married woman, to a wonderful man who I have been with for over 3 years, we have overcome more than many couples will in their whole life, just because we are young, does not make us any less than an older couple/parent. Up until recently, I handled my son Gino's entire court case on my own (along with having to teach my husband things because I was not allowed to speak for him), filed everything, researched everything, took all notes on the case, called to find out more information, read exerts from law books and articles...so irresponsible I am not.
It is always so awkward walking up to Gino's school for drop off or pick up, and feeling eyes looking at you obviously because you are young. I am probably more involved in my sons life than most of those parents picking up and dropping off their kids are. There was a cute Gingerbread house activity at his school this morning that parents were invited too, and looking around I was probably the only one under 30, AWKWARD! But don't be fooled, we rocked that Gingerbread house and other than the one set of parents who pretty much did their daughter's Gingerbread house (we know who will be doing her English papers when she is older) Gino's was one of the most thought out and neat houses there. He is very artistic and pays close attention to details, and that makes me one proud Mama! I took pictures, and wish I could put them up, but that may come back to haunt me at court!
Being a step mother is not easy, especially when the child sees you as his mother but the law says something different. But what makes it all worth it in the end is all of those little moments that bring tears to your eyes. We were putting up all of the Christmas decorations around the house the other day, Gino left the room to put something away in his room and I continued putting up the lights, bows and stockings. When Gino came back into the room his eyes lit up and got really wide and he screamed "MAMA!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!! IT'S BEAUTIFUL!" Every time he noticed something new, he screamed "Mama!!!!!! I love you!!!!" I giggled, partly because the way he said that was hilarious but also I teared up a little because it warmed my heart (as it always does) to hear him say that to me and for something so little. It's those little things that make the hard times of being a step mother totally worth it in the end. When Gino is at home with us, at school and not at visits that he hates, he is the happiest kid you could ever meet, with a lot of love to give and can teach a lot of people a thing or two about strength and learning. He has been through so much in his little life, but still is so sweet, smart, caring, loving and eager to learn more everyday. I'm pretty sure I am the luckiest Mama out there I have two beautiful children, who I love very much and who love me very much, couldn't ask for much more!
I was anything but careless, actually I had been taking birth control since I was young (not to over share or anything) and had consistently taken my pills to ensure I would not have a baby until I was ready. Unfortunately, when you are young and your doctor does not inform you that taking anti-biotic's while on birth control can stop the birth control from being effective, pregnancy is often what follows. It was a hard decision for me because I love kids and my mother and my father had different views on the matter. In the end, I decided to have an abortion (which prior to the situation I was in, I never agreed with people having them) and my best friend Katie was there for me every step of the way. And Like I said, to this day, I have never regretted my decision.
Only two years later, I met my husband and his absolutely adorable 2 year old son. Honestly when I met my husband, I thought he was much older (I never dated men my age, because generally they were too immature) and wanted nothing to do with him for a good 6 months, not because he wasn't attractive or hilarious (he was and still is, even more so now than then) but because I just got out of a serious relationship and definitely was not wanting to be involved with another man who had a kid. I suppose persistence pays off though, because I am now in fact married to him. So in a way, I have been a mother since I was 20, because I have been a mother to Gino since then. I was almost 22 when Deezy was born, so I guess you could say I am a young mother, however I had always wanted my kids in my early 20's because I didn't want to be an older mother (not that anything is wrong with that, I just wanted to have mine young). I'm hoping to have another soon!! So far, my husband and I are thinking 6 kids, but that all depends on the gender of the next 2 (2 more boys in a row might make me stop at 4, our boys come out insanely active).
The point of that mini rant about being a young mother does have a point, my point is how awkward and annoying it is being looked at like "the young mom" when I take Gino to school. Even more so nowadays when a lot of women aren't having there kids until their 40's!! Just because I am young with two boys, does NOT make me promiscuous, does NOT make me a single mother, does NOT make me a bad mother, does NOT make me irresponsible OR uneducated! In fact, I was raised by some pretty smart parents, a father who is a Doctor of Anthropology and a mother who was an English teacher, they also both happen to have been in the Peace Corps (Kano, Nigeria). So don't be fooled by my young appearance, I was raised very well (although at times I may have butted heads with my parents) and am myself, an educated woman. I hold a minor in Psychology and am working on finishing up my degree in Music Education. I also want to pursue many other roads in education, like family law paralegal, a Major in Psychology and go on to get a Doctorate in Music. So, please, no quick judgements, I am not what you are thinking. I am also a married woman, to a wonderful man who I have been with for over 3 years, we have overcome more than many couples will in their whole life, just because we are young, does not make us any less than an older couple/parent. Up until recently, I handled my son Gino's entire court case on my own (along with having to teach my husband things because I was not allowed to speak for him), filed everything, researched everything, took all notes on the case, called to find out more information, read exerts from law books and articles...so irresponsible I am not.
It is always so awkward walking up to Gino's school for drop off or pick up, and feeling eyes looking at you obviously because you are young. I am probably more involved in my sons life than most of those parents picking up and dropping off their kids are. There was a cute Gingerbread house activity at his school this morning that parents were invited too, and looking around I was probably the only one under 30, AWKWARD! But don't be fooled, we rocked that Gingerbread house and other than the one set of parents who pretty much did their daughter's Gingerbread house (we know who will be doing her English papers when she is older) Gino's was one of the most thought out and neat houses there. He is very artistic and pays close attention to details, and that makes me one proud Mama! I took pictures, and wish I could put them up, but that may come back to haunt me at court!
"Insanity is being a stepmother who wouldn't change a thing... It is also happiness and Love"
~MelanieBeing a step mother is not easy, especially when the child sees you as his mother but the law says something different. But what makes it all worth it in the end is all of those little moments that bring tears to your eyes. We were putting up all of the Christmas decorations around the house the other day, Gino left the room to put something away in his room and I continued putting up the lights, bows and stockings. When Gino came back into the room his eyes lit up and got really wide and he screamed "MAMA!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!! IT'S BEAUTIFUL!" Every time he noticed something new, he screamed "Mama!!!!!! I love you!!!!" I giggled, partly because the way he said that was hilarious but also I teared up a little because it warmed my heart (as it always does) to hear him say that to me and for something so little. It's those little things that make the hard times of being a step mother totally worth it in the end. When Gino is at home with us, at school and not at visits that he hates, he is the happiest kid you could ever meet, with a lot of love to give and can teach a lot of people a thing or two about strength and learning. He has been through so much in his little life, but still is so sweet, smart, caring, loving and eager to learn more everyday. I'm pretty sure I am the luckiest Mama out there I have two beautiful children, who I love very much and who love me very much, couldn't ask for much more!
When you have brought up kids, there are memories you store directly in your tear ducts.
~Robert Brault
~Robert Brault
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile." ~unknown
Once again, it has been a very long time since I have posted a blog! So much has been going on to keep my boys and I very busy. Gino started Kindergarten! He loves it, and I love it too! Every morning he asks if it is a long day because he likes to be at school longer because he has so much fun! He has made big strides with writing and reading so far (has a little bit of a harder time recognizing certain letters) but the teacher's there are amazing and have worked so hard and patiently with all of their students! Gino can now sound out most words to figure out what it is and vice versa! He figured out how to spell spider (with very little help from me)! Our area has amazing school systems, and I am so happy to be living in this area!
Deezy is growing fast, and so is his crazy personality! This kid never stops I swear! He is sooo hyper and has such a strong personality, he thinks he is just hilarious all of the time (which, to be honest, even when he is getting in trouble, I find it hard to not laugh when I look at the goofy faces he makes). He is saying so many new words, but I am sure we are some of the few who can understand what they are yet, like "wubby" is water. He is constantly eating as well, the kid never stops! But he is far from over weight, he is tall and lean actually, but man can that kid put stuff down! Not only that, but he hides food for later, and can smell chocolate from a mile away. I hid my dark chocolate on the top shelf in the pantry, and he climbed up and got it, no problem. He is a handful and isn't even two yet, but he provides much needed entertainment during the day. He is now 1 month sober from the boob! That was far from an easy task, but he did it! I breastfed that kid for almost 2 years! He still is attached to falling asleep on them at nap time, I'm sure it is a comfort thing, but he also now sleeps in a big boy bed in his brothers and his room! (not a toddler bed, a big boy bed!)
My husband pretty much rocks too, he's mentoring at this nurturing father's program at DCF on Thursday's and is really enjoying it, he took both of the boys one night that everyone was bringing their kids. He provided the entertainment (which was floor hockey) and the kids had a blast! Not only is he giving the father's there hope that they will be able to have a relationship with their child (my husband being a rare case where a father has full physical custody of his child) but he is also learning things while he is there. He also passed another ASE test (3 now in less than a year!) and he gets another dollar raise for every ASE certification he gets! Not only that, but we are moving into a single family house, with a yard, in this area right by his job the end of February! FINALLY, the kids can run around and "walk as loudly" as they like without our cranky landlord complaining! We can also get that rotty we have been wanting for so long because we will have the yard!
"Loving life right now...happiness wasn't in my vision but now I'm staring at it." ~Unknown
Now for the main purpose of this post, Gino's case. In August the "biological mother" was granted visitation again even though she failed a drug test that day in court, not only that but the Judge lectured her for a long time and told her that the only reason he was allowing the visits was to show her what she would lose out on, and that this was her last chance, and he didn't want to be the one to do it, but he would terminate her parental rights if she messes up again. Yes, we are livid he has allowed visits, we are not stupid this girl is NOT sober by any definition of the word, but we do have the Judge saying this is her absolute last chance so we are hoping that works out in our favor. We have had so many issues with the current visitation schedule and agreement, she smokes in the house with Gino there and he has very bad asthma that he has to take a steroid and an anti-inflammatory for EVERY day (she is also the reason he has this asthma thanks to her smoking and drug use while pregnant), until recent complaints made by us he only had snacks as lunch, she clipped his fingernails and almost every single one was bleeding, her boyfriend (who is a creep and is a clear drug user himself) has been on visits even though the Judge had specifically said no to anyone besides immediate family being on the visit, and some issues with lying from the supervisor as well as her not supervising the visits properly. That isn't even all of our worries and complaints, but that's a bulk of them. She has NOT been taking the random urine screens that were originally ordered because where she lives, one of the only places that administered those has now been shut down so the Judge (obviously not thinking) said she was to take them through the probation department, but her color is not even called every month! SO we had been trying to come to an agreement about how, when and where she could take these tests to assure us that she is staying sober. We had come to a (not final) agreement that she would take a hair follicle every 30 days and that would be sufficient. There is also a GAL involved with our case who is supposed to do what is in Gino's best interests (that is questionable that she has been doing that at all) who came to our house and spoke to Gino on Friday, we also were scheduled for a sit down with her (that was very last minute and a pain in the ass) the same day. While we were at this meeting, our lawyer is trying to get us what we want for Gino and her new lawyer (who is a jerk and pretty apparent a heavy drinker), we had somewhat come to an agreement that we were obviously not pleased with. Our lawyer went back to the other room to discuss the hair follicle and to see the most recent one and the "mother" stumbled up to the GAL, our lawyer and her lawyer and slurred that she needed to leave to catch her boat. She apparently could barely stand or speak, now not only are we certain she is using something, but the GAL and our lawyer have witnessed first hand what we have seen going on for the last 5 years. This could work in our favor hopefully, now we are waiting on her to actually submit to the 12 panel hair follicle (the only one that shows her prescriptions for xanax and methadone, which she takes for back pain, NOT EVEN her addiction to heroin, she is prescribed it and has full freedom with how she takes it and when she takes it!) The last two tests we have from her (urine and hair which was not the 12 panel it was only a 5 with extended opiates which does not include prescriptions) were both "clean" which makes us worry she is misusing her scripts, which would make her "pass" the tests and be allowed to destroy Gino's life even more. Low and behold, I go back into the tests from March-May and her levels are all over the map (her ng/mL levels which is the amount of the metabolite that shows up in the screens) her Benzo (xanax) levels went from 7,000 ng/mL's to 79,000 ng/mL's!!! As well as her methadone ng/mL levels going from 850 to 1400!!! However, these new tests she is taking just say pass or fail they show no levels, so how are we to prove she is misusing these prescriptions?! And what exactly are the ng/mL's supposed to be for someone who is prescribed these medications (anyone who really does know and has the answer, please let me know, I know the cutoff levels to be considered detected but I cant find what the levels would be to be a red flag that she is abusing her prescription), addicts are so good at what they do, getting messed up and hiding it when necessary. The GAL has now said that even if her test comes back clean she doesn't think she should be around Gino because she would obviously be mentally unstable, duh of course she is, and its because she is not sober, and has never been she has just gotten away with it like she is paid to. We NEED this hair follicle to come back and be dirty and/or show abnormal levels for her prescriptions because we all know she is not sober, and Gino does not need this crap. This is her last chance, those are the words right out of the Judge's mouth and thank God we got that on recording (cost us 51 bucks but I hope it was worth it) so we can do our best to hold him to his word since what he says is under oath. 5 years of this nonsense is MORE than enough, it's time to end it. It's just a matter of finding out how to catch her at what she does best. So for anyone that has answers, really, please let me know because we are running out of options. I have always believed that karma comes back to get you for both positive and negative things,but with this karma is taking her sweet time.
Deezy is growing fast, and so is his crazy personality! This kid never stops I swear! He is sooo hyper and has such a strong personality, he thinks he is just hilarious all of the time (which, to be honest, even when he is getting in trouble, I find it hard to not laugh when I look at the goofy faces he makes). He is saying so many new words, but I am sure we are some of the few who can understand what they are yet, like "wubby" is water. He is constantly eating as well, the kid never stops! But he is far from over weight, he is tall and lean actually, but man can that kid put stuff down! Not only that, but he hides food for later, and can smell chocolate from a mile away. I hid my dark chocolate on the top shelf in the pantry, and he climbed up and got it, no problem. He is a handful and isn't even two yet, but he provides much needed entertainment during the day. He is now 1 month sober from the boob! That was far from an easy task, but he did it! I breastfed that kid for almost 2 years! He still is attached to falling asleep on them at nap time, I'm sure it is a comfort thing, but he also now sleeps in a big boy bed in his brothers and his room! (not a toddler bed, a big boy bed!)
My husband pretty much rocks too, he's mentoring at this nurturing father's program at DCF on Thursday's and is really enjoying it, he took both of the boys one night that everyone was bringing their kids. He provided the entertainment (which was floor hockey) and the kids had a blast! Not only is he giving the father's there hope that they will be able to have a relationship with their child (my husband being a rare case where a father has full physical custody of his child) but he is also learning things while he is there. He also passed another ASE test (3 now in less than a year!) and he gets another dollar raise for every ASE certification he gets! Not only that, but we are moving into a single family house, with a yard, in this area right by his job the end of February! FINALLY, the kids can run around and "walk as loudly" as they like without our cranky landlord complaining! We can also get that rotty we have been wanting for so long because we will have the yard!
"Loving life right now...happiness wasn't in my vision but now I'm staring at it." ~Unknown
Now for the main purpose of this post, Gino's case. In August the "biological mother" was granted visitation again even though she failed a drug test that day in court, not only that but the Judge lectured her for a long time and told her that the only reason he was allowing the visits was to show her what she would lose out on, and that this was her last chance, and he didn't want to be the one to do it, but he would terminate her parental rights if she messes up again. Yes, we are livid he has allowed visits, we are not stupid this girl is NOT sober by any definition of the word, but we do have the Judge saying this is her absolute last chance so we are hoping that works out in our favor. We have had so many issues with the current visitation schedule and agreement, she smokes in the house with Gino there and he has very bad asthma that he has to take a steroid and an anti-inflammatory for EVERY day (she is also the reason he has this asthma thanks to her smoking and drug use while pregnant), until recent complaints made by us he only had snacks as lunch, she clipped his fingernails and almost every single one was bleeding, her boyfriend (who is a creep and is a clear drug user himself) has been on visits even though the Judge had specifically said no to anyone besides immediate family being on the visit, and some issues with lying from the supervisor as well as her not supervising the visits properly. That isn't even all of our worries and complaints, but that's a bulk of them. She has NOT been taking the random urine screens that were originally ordered because where she lives, one of the only places that administered those has now been shut down so the Judge (obviously not thinking) said she was to take them through the probation department, but her color is not even called every month! SO we had been trying to come to an agreement about how, when and where she could take these tests to assure us that she is staying sober. We had come to a (not final) agreement that she would take a hair follicle every 30 days and that would be sufficient. There is also a GAL involved with our case who is supposed to do what is in Gino's best interests (that is questionable that she has been doing that at all) who came to our house and spoke to Gino on Friday, we also were scheduled for a sit down with her (that was very last minute and a pain in the ass) the same day. While we were at this meeting, our lawyer is trying to get us what we want for Gino and her new lawyer (who is a jerk and pretty apparent a heavy drinker), we had somewhat come to an agreement that we were obviously not pleased with. Our lawyer went back to the other room to discuss the hair follicle and to see the most recent one and the "mother" stumbled up to the GAL, our lawyer and her lawyer and slurred that she needed to leave to catch her boat. She apparently could barely stand or speak, now not only are we certain she is using something, but the GAL and our lawyer have witnessed first hand what we have seen going on for the last 5 years. This could work in our favor hopefully, now we are waiting on her to actually submit to the 12 panel hair follicle (the only one that shows her prescriptions for xanax and methadone, which she takes for back pain, NOT EVEN her addiction to heroin, she is prescribed it and has full freedom with how she takes it and when she takes it!) The last two tests we have from her (urine and hair which was not the 12 panel it was only a 5 with extended opiates which does not include prescriptions) were both "clean" which makes us worry she is misusing her scripts, which would make her "pass" the tests and be allowed to destroy Gino's life even more. Low and behold, I go back into the tests from March-May and her levels are all over the map (her ng/mL levels which is the amount of the metabolite that shows up in the screens) her Benzo (xanax) levels went from 7,000 ng/mL's to 79,000 ng/mL's!!! As well as her methadone ng/mL levels going from 850 to 1400!!! However, these new tests she is taking just say pass or fail they show no levels, so how are we to prove she is misusing these prescriptions?! And what exactly are the ng/mL's supposed to be for someone who is prescribed these medications (anyone who really does know and has the answer, please let me know, I know the cutoff levels to be considered detected but I cant find what the levels would be to be a red flag that she is abusing her prescription), addicts are so good at what they do, getting messed up and hiding it when necessary. The GAL has now said that even if her test comes back clean she doesn't think she should be around Gino because she would obviously be mentally unstable, duh of course she is, and its because she is not sober, and has never been she has just gotten away with it like she is paid to. We NEED this hair follicle to come back and be dirty and/or show abnormal levels for her prescriptions because we all know she is not sober, and Gino does not need this crap. This is her last chance, those are the words right out of the Judge's mouth and thank God we got that on recording (cost us 51 bucks but I hope it was worth it) so we can do our best to hold him to his word since what he says is under oath. 5 years of this nonsense is MORE than enough, it's time to end it. It's just a matter of finding out how to catch her at what she does best. So for anyone that has answers, really, please let me know because we are running out of options. I have always believed that karma comes back to get you for both positive and negative things,but with this karma is taking her sweet time.
"This is the last chance where he or she has sole control over his destiny..."
~Capt. Douglas J. Katz
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