Gino starts Kindergarten in two weeks, I'm not sure who is more nervous Gino or me! He seems to be ready to get out of his pre-school and move on to Kindergarten, he has been having a rough time the past two weeks at his pre-school, I think a lot of his friends have left to get ready for Kindergarten and younger 2 year olds are now in his class so he probably feels too old to be there. Not to mention some kid was coloring on his paper and making his life miserable there! I spoke to multiple teacher's about that little bit, kids will be kids, that little boy is only 2 and doesn't know better...but I'll be DAMNED if that is going to have such a negative impact on my child! At the same time, he needs to learn how to handle things on his own and control his emotions, I can't drop everything all the time to "save" him that will just send him the wrong impression. His entire life he will have to deal with kids that bug him, are mean, really annoying, etc. sheltering him would only make it more difficult for him to grow up.
I don't think that we will be having Deezy go to the same pre-school, Gino has learned so much and loved his first set of teacher's there, but every time I have gone as a concerned parent about this or that, I feel as if I am being ignored! SO most likely Deezy will be attending a different pre-school, there is one in the area that allows you to "check-in" on them via a web cam they have, I can check on him at any point during the day, which is reassuring. Oh the wonders of the internet!
I've never had major knee surgery on any other part of my body.
-- Winston Bennett, University of Kentucky basketball forwardI had major knee surgery about 10 years ago, due to a torn ACL I managed to get while playing short stop/sweeper in our last High school soccer game my freshman year. I knew my knee would never feel the same, but I was promised a much better knee than it ever was after the surgery-I have never been able to run again nor have I been able to kneel comfortably. So finally after 10 years of hoping one day it would be better, I gave in to my husband saying I needed to go to a knee specialist. X-ray of COURSE said nothing (why do they make you have an x-ray for ligament damage?! My bones don't hurt, the things holding my knee together hurt), so then I was referred to a knee specialist who when I went in was very quick, precise, calm and tolerant of any question I had. I was stupid to take Ibuprofen before going in because it was more difficult to show where I was having pain when I took a flippin' "pain killer" before. I then made an appointment to have an MRI, got the MRI that same week and had to wait 2 weeks for the results because conveniently my DR went on vacation. I go to the appointment 2 weeks later to discuss what is on my MRI and he says when I reviewed you MRI it looks like you will only need minor surgery on your cartilage that is torn, then takes me into the hallway to look at the MRI images....then continues to say but there is a possibilty this tear in your cartilage is so big that you will need to replace your cartilage (a second surgery) and this image is troubling of your ACL we will have to look at that the best we can when we go in for surgery (a possible 3rd surgery). Not anything I wanted to hear, I have two boys, one who happens to be extremely over active, I live on the second and third floors of my house, not to mention I drive standard...fantabulous! I am just hoping it will end at the minimally invasive cartilage "shaving" and not go on to the other two surgeries. Not to mention, that was the end of P90X for me, so now I'm angry I can't lose the few pounds that I want to lose or do the cardio as easily as I hoped.
With both Gino's early day Kindergarten schedule and my knee surgery coming up, I will not be attending college in the fall, which on one hand I am happy about I was dreading returning but on the other hand I just want to be DONE and have my damn degree already! But mainly, I'm relieved because I really just don't want to go back yet, I want to stay at home with my little man.
I'm a true believer in karma. You get what you give, whether it's bad or good ~Sandra Bullock
The summer has been nice with out the stress of having to take Gino to visits that he hates, but we had court yesterday for the visitation matter. It was a pretrial conference (which is pretty serious) where of course her lawyer had put in a motion to have visitation again. Not to mention we were appointed a Guardian Ad Litem, which came back to bite us in the ass. The woman did nothing for Gino at all, she never interviewed him, never spoke to the people we had suggested she speak to (teachers, pediatrician, etc.), and completely attacked ME in the GAL report! Gino has called me Mama since Andino was coming into this world, HE chose to call me Mama he didn't have to. She not only falsely stated he calls me mommy (which is what he calls his "mother") but suggested that the court prevent him from calling me that from now on. There were a couple things that we had going for us yesterday and the GAL report was NOT one of them; the "mother" revoked the release for my husband to obtain her drug tests which was not allowed, the last urine screen that we had from her in June had what is called HIGH adulteration, the GAL condoned the fact that she uses marijuana so the judge made her go and take a urine screen since she said she hadn't used it, and she failed the screen. But low and behold, the Judge seems to have given her visitation again, this Judge never makes the final temporary judgements the day of court (which can be good or bad), he ordered us to bring Gino to a visit yesterday for two hours yesterday, and that there would be one once a month after that as long as after the hair follicle all of her levels of drugs (that weren't prescribed) go down (including alcohol). He also said that this is her last chance, he doesn't want to be the one to do it, but he will terminate her RIGHTS if she messes up again because he has to protect the child. He also then ordered my husband to have a talk with Gino to explain to him that I am not his mother I am his step-mother, and try to get him not to call me Mama, my husband said he would speak to him but it was his choice to call me Mama or not and that he was NOT going to force him not to call me Mama. I think it is appalling, that I HAVE been the mother for almost 3 years to this child, because his "mother" could not get her shit together and take care of her son because drug use was more important to her than getting sober to have a relationship with her child. So after court yesterday, her sister comes up to us and says she doesn't think he should have the visit with his "mother" she's a mess but how can she tell that to her sister (this is the woman that is supposed to SUPERVISE the visits) meanwhile Gino's mothers new boyfriend is prancing around looking high as a kite walking back and fourth in front of Andre and I. We had given her sister our number at the last court date to call and have a relationship with Gino, but she NEVER did. We walk away with our heads low because Gino is about to hate us for making him go on a visit, and the sister comes flying around the corner saying Gino's mother doesn't want to do the visit today....THAT makes her look like shit, she was granted a visit and once again is blowing the visit off (obviously because she is under the influence of something or wanted to go home and get high). Now all we have to hope for is that once the Judge looks over the file more he really thinks about Gino and NOT her, she has had 5 years of chances with him...What is at stake now is that she will get a once a month overnight weekend with him, I pray that is not what he orders, but who knows now. I am amazed that even with a failed drug test yesterday that he is even allowing her visitation. It's horrible to say, but I can only hope she fails the drug test, or doesn't take one, she's done enough damage to Gino it's unbelievable they are allowing her to continue to do more. She said she was planning on enrolling in a college and that's why she couldn't pay more child support (she doesn't even pay the measly $35 a week, she pays $80 a month), HAHAHAH oh my god RIGHT, and pigs fly, babies change their own diapers, and a cow is jumping over the moon...That was just another ploy to make herself look better! I can only hope for what is best for Gino, there is only so much we can do...we actually had a lawyer this go around, she was young and very sweet but also very smart and on top of her game. We plan on hiring her again if we need to, but we are not sure what will happen. We were given a trial date (and a status conference before the trial) that runs to be very expensive on its own, looks like we will be putting aside a lot of money to hire a lawyer again (plan on using the same one). It might be a horrible thing to hope for, but I can only hope for Gino's sake that she messes up again.
"Even if things don't unfold the way you expected, don't be disheartened or give up. One who continues to advance will win in the end."
— Daisaku Ikeda
— Daisaku Ikeda
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